Zechariah 1:3
“Therefore say thou unto them, Thus saith the LORD of hosts; Turn ye unto me, saith the LORD of hosts, and I will turn unto you, saith the LORD of hosts.”
God is a very reasonable and fair God. When He created us, He created us with a free choice to be able to do what we want to do. God could have chosen to create us with no ability to choose and only with the ability to act upon His command, but He loved us too much to do that. No other part of God’s creation was created with reasoning and the ability to choose.
With this privilege comes great responsibility. God has left in your hands the opportunity to follow Him or to go and do your own thing. It is completely up to you. You can choose to obey God and follow Him, or you can choose to go your own way but suffer the consequences of that choice.
However, with every action you take, you must take into account that God will react according to your action. It says in the verse above, “…Turn ye unto me, saith the LORD of hosts, and I will turn unto you…” Notice the reaction of God. If Israel would turn to the LORD, He would turn unto them. That means if they would have turned away from the LORD, He would turn away from them. This agrees with James 4:8 where it says, “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you…” How God acts towards you is totally dependent upon your action towards Him.
If God reacts toward our actions towards Him, that means that we hold the key to God’s blessings and favor on our lives. I’m always amazed when I talk to individuals who complain about God not being good to them. After questioning them for a short time, I always discover that they are unfaithful in their church attendance and service to God. What these individuals don't take into consideration is that they are totally at fault as to how God is reacting towards them. They want God to be good to them, but He is a reactor. On the other hand, if you were to question individuals who started doing right, they will always tell you that God is good. The difference between the two types of individuals is their initial action. God puts the onus on the individual to determine His actions towards them.
Friend, how you see God is exactly how He sees you. If you see God as distant or aloof, it is because He sees you the same way. God totally reacts off your action. God is not the initiator, He is the reactor. God could have chosen to be the initiator, but that would have taken away your free will. God wanted you to have a choice, but you must realize that choice comes with consequences. If you choose to turn towards God, He will turn towards you. If you choose to turn away, He then will turn away from you.
With this truth in mind, you can determine the quality of your relationship with God. If you want to have a good day with God, I would advise you to start your day out in the Scriptures and prayer. If you want to have a good week with God, start your week with God in church. If you want God to be involved in every task, start that task out by including God in it with prayer. You hold the keys to the quality of your relationship with God. So, however God is acting towards you, remember that His action is a total reaction towards your initial action. If you don't like how God is acting towards you, change your actions and you will see Him change how He reacts towards you.